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God and Jetfire

Confessions of a Birth Mother
May 07, 2016
I've read every book on adoption by birth mothers that I can get my hands on, this is my first on open adoption. I couldn't put it down, in fact I started reading it again as soon as I finished it the first time. As I read some reviews, what I notice is that people who have not "given up a child" can't quite understand that you may never have the concrete answers that they want to read about , ie: why she did it. Mine was not an open adoption and although I've lived with so many unanswered questions, Amy had a very different challenge, being able to know and be with her child, but not be the primary parent, but rather a visitor in her son's life. Either way it leaves such a hole in your life and your heart that others can never really understand and maybe we can't totally understand either. Yes, she goes on a bit about some things, and I wanted her to realize she didn't give him up for herself, but for him ... but those are my thoughts and feelings, not hers. That's part of the pleasure of reading a memoir, it's their story to tell as they choose and I'm very grateful for her writing this book, it gave me a view of a situation I'm very familiar with, but from a very different angle.