Quotation

Twilight Children

Three Voices No One Heard Until a Therapist Listened
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"You believe that if you only do this one more thing, you will finally connect with the person and he or she will start to get better. This is actually a normal caring response... The person in need responds to them by getting better... The highly manipulative individual has a different reaction. Instead of improving, he or she uses these responses to perpetuate a destructive behavioral cycle and, in fact, actually manipulates people to provoke such reactions from them to feed this cycle. Consequently, the normal caring response has the opposite effect on these mentally ill individuals and actually perpetuates the problem rather than stopping it. In most instances, this manipulation is not a conscious effort on the part of the mentally ill person. They do not set out purposefully to control other people in this manner."