How We Fight for Our Lives

How We Fight for Our Lives

A Memoir

eBook - 2019 | First Simon & Schuster hardcover edition.
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"Written from the crossroads of sex, race, and power in America, How We Fight for Our Lives is a stunning coming-of-age memoir and a haunting reflection of the nation as a whole"-- Provided by publisher.
Publisher: New York :, Simon & Schuster,, 2019.
Edition: First Simon & Schuster hardcover edition.
ISBN: 9781501132759
Characteristics: 1 online resource
Summary: "Written from the crossroads of sex, race, and power in America, How We Fight for Our Lives is a stunning coming-of-age memoir and a haunting reflection of the nation as a whole"-- Provided by publisher.


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LPL_ShirleyB Apr 19, 2021

A candid, charismatic, and wise memoir from the acclaimed gay Black American poet. So much wisdom & heartache to edify us all about family relationships, love, and accepting differences! Be ready for emotional & graphic intensity. Among his literary influences Jones counts James Baldwin, Audre Lorde, Patricia Smith, and others. Awards for this autobiographical work include: 2019 Kirkus Prize for Nonfiction, 2020 Stonewall Book Award/Israel Fishman Non-fiction Award, and a 2020 Lambda Literary Award.

IndyPL_ChaseM Sep 04, 2020

Saeed Jones' memoir, "How We Fight for Our Lives," wants to bring a lot more to the table than it delivers. The summary of the book promises "a larger examination of race and queerness, power and vulnerability, love and grief." However, what ended up on the pages was an average coming of age memoir. Jones often went superficial when the story demanded something deeper. The real story bubbling under the surface was his relationship with his mother, which is what really propels his story forward.

ArapahoeAsia Mar 02, 2020

Jones' memoir is full of the joy of starting an authentic life and the disappointment of struggling to find a place for oneself in a world crafted primarily for white, heterosexual men. Jones starts a conversation with his readers about the different ways everyone we meet is fighting for their lives.

Feb 03, 2020

I read this book in less than 1 week. I couldn't put it down. It was such a delightful, painful and yet empowering memoir. If you are struggling with identify questions, or just want to learn more about the life of queer, POC, this is the book.

JCLS_Ashland_Kristin Jan 30, 2020

A powerful memoir about the black gay experience. It will not appeal to all readers, but it is beautifully written and deals with an important topic.

Jan 21, 2020

Engaging memoir touching on important issues facing young Americans. This is what I love most about this genre, stories that aren’t afraid to be honest and raw while giving poignancy to the individual human odyssey.

Jan 21, 2020

Not what I thought or expected. Some very good literary writing at times and at other times a huge imagination stretch for me...

STPL_JessH Nov 23, 2019

This is a difficult book to review. I respect Saeed Jones and the raw and vulnerable narrative he presents. I am not sure I recommend it, though. I did not enjoy reading the book and found it almost mediocre at times which is surprising given Jones’ willingness to share hard truths.
This memoir is anecdotal in nature with specific moments recorded and then years go by without details. There’s nothing inherently wrong with this narrative choice; I just found it a bit disjointed. I was also surprised by the moments of poor writing considering that Jones is a poet. I would be interested to read his other work.
I can appreciate comparisons to Kiese Laymon’s work, but Heavy had such gravitas that I feel is lacking here. That said, How We Fight For Our Lives is a book that will continue to resonate and I may well change my mind about it.


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